Changing the Social Narrative Towards Sexual Harm Victims

If not now, when?

In a world striving for progress and compassion, it's essential to address the way we talk about and perceive sexual harm victims. Changing the social narrative surrounding these survivors is not just a matter of semantics. It's a crucial step towards fostering empathy, support, and ultimately, a safer and more understanding society. Let's explore how we can reshape the conversation around sexual harm victims, promoting a culture of sensitivity, validation, and empowerment.

We need to challenge victim-blaming. One of the most entrenched issues in the current narrative is victim-blaming.  There is an individual and social impact of blaming survivors for the harm they've experienced. By shifting the focus from questioning the actions of victims to holding perpetrators accountable, we can contribute to a culture that supports survivors rather than perpetuating shame.

Pressure is building for the consent law reform which would see the perpetrator having to prove the victim consented rather than simply that they believed consent was given. Instead of 'no means no' how about, 'silence means no', 'maybe means no'? Consent is much more than a simple yes or no, it is body language that matches the words, it is an enthusiastic yes by both parties after understanding what they are agreeing to.

Media and cultural narratives often reinforce harmful myths and stereotypes about sexual harm through informational control and emotional connections that span generations. It is subtle and powerful and we are constantly bombarded with a narrative that shapes our understanding of life. Positive or negative it has a role in shaping our beliefs and values. Education plays a vital role in challenging these stereotypes and creating a space for empathy. Media on all platforms is a business where ethics and social responsibility are blurred with engagement and revenue.

Silencing survivors only perpetuates the stigma surrounding sexual harm. By amplifying survivors' voices, we provide a platform for them to share their stories, perspectives, and insights. There is a power of storytelling in humanising survivors, breaking down societal barriers, and fostering a more empathetic public perception. We are normal people, there is nothing wrong with us so why is it frowned upon to discuss? it is likely that some are uncomfortable with what might be said but when one person shares an experience it supports, heals, and comforts others. The flow-on effect is a more positive outlook and reinforcement that we are not alone. Share stories of empowerment and recovery, with consent, to give hope and inspiration to others. Your voice can be a powerful tool for change

The words we use matter. A shift in language from terms that may imply blame or judgment to more empathetic and survivor-centric language can help change the narrative. By choosing words carefully, we contribute to a narrative that acknowledges the strength and resilience of survivors rather than reinforcing harmful stereotypes. Questions like “What were you wearing?” or “Why did not you say something sooner?” serve to invalidate the experiences of survivors and reinforce the culture. It's not always easy to find the right words, and get comfortable with the uncomfortable. You don't need to fix anything or have all the answers. Simply saying, 'I am sorry that happened to you" can be enough.

Prevention is key to changing the narrative around sexual harm. Incorporating comprehensive consent education in schools and communities helps establish a foundation of understanding and respect.  Early education and fostering a culture of consent are huge contributing factors in preventing harm through generations and snowballing the social narrative changes.

Changing the social narrative towards sexual harm victims requires collective effort, empathy, and a commitment to fostering a culture of understanding and support. By challenging victim-blaming, dispelling myths, amplifying survivors' voices, and promoting education and healing, we can contribute to a narrative that empowers survivors, holds perpetrators accountable, and ultimately builds a society that prioritises empathy over judgment. It's time to reshape the conversation and create a world where survivors are heard, validated, and supported on their path to healing.